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Important Communication Guidelines

There are times when we can get irritated with our friends, children, spouses, relatives, church members, or coworkers. When these irritations come, we can either resort to being nasty, rude, and abrasive, or we can endeavor to be gentle, courteous, and considerate. Here are a few guidelines to follow when you must communicate under stressful and irritating situations.

1. Be a good listener. Do not answer a person before he has stopped talking.
Proverbs 18:13 He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.

2. Think before you speak.
Proverbs 15:23 A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it!

3. Do not use silence on a person to show your anger or frustration with him. Explain the reason that you are angry or frustrated.
Colossians 4:6 Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.

4. Do not become involved in quarrels.
Proverbs 20:3 It is an honour for a man to cease from strife: but every fool will be meddling.

5. Do not respond in uncontrolled anger.
Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

6. When you are wrong, admit your offence and ask forgiveness.
Proverbs 20:6 Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?

7. When you do forgive someone, never bring the offence up to him again. Genuine forgiveness means: I won’t bring it up to that person again;I won’t bring it up to anyone else; and I won’t let my mind brood on it.
Colossians 3:13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.

8. If someone verbally attacks, criticizes, or blames you, do not respond same way.
Romans 12:21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

9. Try to understand the other person’s opinion.
1 Peter 3:9 Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

10. Do not blame or criticize the other person. Try to encourage and edify the other person.
Galatians 6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.

 

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Ways To Be an Elegant Missionary Woman

  • Be spiritual. Have a quiet time with the Lord each morning.
  • Be disciplined in your mind and heart. Fill your mind with God’s Word, wholesome books, good poetry, and spiritual songs.
  • Be elegant in your dress. Wear clean, neat, yet simple clothing and accessories.  Make sure your shoes are clean and not scuffed.
  • Be conscious of your hair.  If you have long hair that gets in your face, wear it in a neat bun or ponytail.
  • Be careful to keep make-up looking natural. Do not wear bright blue or green eye shadow or anything that sparkles during the day.  If you use eyeliner, apply thin lines to upper and lower lashes, smudging along the lower so lines do not  look drawn on.
  • Be  conscious of your posture. Stand  straight  and do not  slouch. Do not cross your legs or  fold your arms.
  • Be on time for services and appointments to show others that you value their time.
  • Be generous with your smiles.  Your smile will encourage others to smile.
  • Be concerned about others.  Refrain talking about   only  yourself, your ministry, and your family.
  • Be careful not to praise yourself, but generously praise and encourage others.
  • Be careful to silence your phone when having a formal meal with someone.
  • Be kind to children and be attentive to them if  they are trying to talk to you.
  • Be kind to the elderly and offer a helping hand when you see that they have a need.
  • Be humble. Do not assume that you are so important that others should bow down to you and treat you like royalty.
  • Be appreciative when someone does something kind for you or gives you a gift.
  • Be a positive thinker. Thinking positive thoughts will  show on your face.
  • Be careful to leave mission apartments and other accommodations  as they were before you arrived.
  • Be conscious to remember people’s names and pronounce them correctly.
  • Be quick to apologize when you make mistakes.
  • Be attentive to people when they are shaking hands with you. It is offensive to shake someone’s  hand and talk to a different person at the same time.
  • Be careful not to stare or look down on others who are less fortunate than you.
  • Be careful not to be a snob and ask about a  person’s brand  or cost of clothing or shoes.
  • Be careful to treat salespeople with kindness even if they become pushy.
  • Be positive in your speech.
    • Do not use uncouth or full of slang speech.
    • Do not  speak with a “I know-it-all” or “I know better” attitude.
    • Do not interrupt  a person mid-sentence or try to guess his words before he finishes speaking.
    • If you enter a  conversation with a person who talks incessantly, try to relax and let him continue chattering while you keep quiet.
    • Be friendly and remain light-hearted in conversation. Do not pour out your sorrows, disappointments, and problems except  to close friends.
    • Be careful not to speak like your are a victim, no matter how many  trials you have experienced.
    • Be sensitive to the feelings of others. If you sense  that someone is embarrassed or uncomfortable, quickly change the subject.
    • Be careful not to exaggerate about the people you have known  and the places you have been.
    • Be careful not to criticize others if they do not have your same convictions.
    • Be careful to never laugh or make jokes at someone else’s expense.
    • Be gracious if someone is rude or insults  you,  just walk away.
    • Be careful not to take offense when offended.