The greatest counseling tip that I can give you as a woman is found in Colossians 3:23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men. Everything we do, we must do because we love the Lord, and we want to obey His word.
As a wife, have you ever spent the day cleaning the house and cooking a special meal? When your husband walks into the house, you expect him to notice all your hard work. Instead, he doesn’t notice anything or appreciate your extra hard work. You wait and wait for some kind complement. When your husband doesn’t complement you, anger creeps into your heart, and you begin to think, “How insensitive—he doesn’t even appreciate my hard work and my labor of love for him.”
Before you begin to get angry, consider this—were you cleaning your house or preparing that special meal to receive praise or complement, or were you doing it because you loved the Lord and loved your husband? When you expect to receive praise or compliments for doing acts of service, you will always feel let down when you don’t receive them.
Next time you catch yourself getting angry because someone didn’t recognize your act of service, evaluate your motive, ask yourself, “Did I do this because of my love for that person, or did I do it because I wanted to receive praise and recognition? Everything we do should be done to please the Lord and not to receive the praise of others.
And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.