If you are a people-pleaser, you might need to redirect your focus to become more concerned with what pleases God than with what pleases others.
Romans 12:1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.
Remember If I WANT to Keep My Focus on Pleasing God
- Seek to know His will in each situation of your life.
- Don’t think that you have to do everything you are asked to do…even in the church!
- Remember when your heart’s desire is to please God, you will be able to put others’ needs and desires in a healthy perspective.
- Learn to budget your time by prioritizing your life and determining how much time you will allot for specific people and activities.
Priortize by Order of Importance
Your relationship with God
Your family (marriage, children, parents)
Your employment (If you work outside the home)
Your personal time (time alone with God, time alone with self)
God should always be number one in your priority list. The problem is that if you’re a people-pleaser, you think that being “a good Christian” means that you must please everyone. You tend to believe that you are putting God first when you say yes to every good cause, especially if it is a church-related.
How do I figure out how to budget my time commitments?
1. Recognize that God wants our families to be number one under Him. When we get over-committed to the point that it robs us of our time that we should be giving our families, it is time to say no.
2. Make sure that we budget some time for ourselves. Jesus was a person who had a vision, a purpose, and a consuming passion, yet when He needed time for Himself, He took it?
Luke 4:42 And when it was day, he departed and went into a desert place: and the people sought him, and came unto him, and stayed him, that he should not depart from them.
The Lord had been up all night healing the sick and casting out demons and was exhausted. Instead of expecting His Father to give Him supernatural strength to continue, He recognized His need for rest and rejuvenation.
In order to nurture our relationships with our heavenly Father, we must budget a quiet time with Him every day. Unless we feed on His Word and allow the Holy Spirit to energize us for the work He has called us to do, we won’t be able to recognize the opportunities He sets before us. It is during our quiet times that the Holy Spirit can help us put things into perspective and guide us into making wise decisions concerning the demands others put on our time.
When God reigns at the top of our list of priorities, we can trust Him to show us where to place other people, ourselves, and all our other involvements. When our relationship with God is right, our relationships with others will fall into place.