Great Information about Modesty and Dress

Dear Ladies,

Recently I came across this article that  is full of teaching  you could use in your churches to help your women and teen girls.  I have permission to reprint a small portion of the article, but I encourage you to go to his blog and read the full article  http://www.neednotfret.com/

ONE MAN’S PLEA FOR CHRISTIAN WOMEN TO DRESS MODESTLY              

Written by Kevin L. Howard   

If you’re a mom, don’t underestimate your influence over your girls in the way they think about themselves and your boys in the way they think about women.  The father’s role is vital too.  If fathers start instilling the virtues of modesty while their children are young, then these same fathers might not fret as much when their sons and daughters blossom into teens.  If a man already has a teen daughter, he can hopefully still shape her outlook on her body.  He must show her love, but remain firm that she isn’t free to dress like a streetwalker.  And he can have the same positive influence on his sons, teaching them to respect women and to cherish sex as a gift of marriage. Train your children now while they’re young.  Teach them not just to dress modestly but to think modestly.  After all, modesty is a heart issue.

Tips on dressing modestly

Styles come and go, but class is always in fashion.  Keep skirts at knee level, and don’t wear tight shirts or jeans.  Exposed belly buttons, backs, underwear, and mid riffs aren’t appropriate in mixed company.  Choose pants that don’t have writing on the seat, or else you’re asking men to stare at your butt.

Jeramy Clark gives some practical tips for women to test their apparel before they leave the house.

“When bending over in a loose-fitting or scoop-neck blouse, always place your hand over the neckline.

“When wearing a button-down blouse, stand sideways and look at the buttonholes in a mirror.  If they spread too far apart or gape too much, you’ll expose your chest.  Pin between the buttons if you need to.

“For all blouses, be conscious about your bra showing.  Be especially careful with the armholes or straps of sleeveless blouses.  Just the sight of your undergarments can cause a guy to stumble.

“When wearing a dress or skirt, always stand in the light and check if you need a slip.  Even a lightweight black dress can reveal your silhouette (in other words, be see-through).  Your best bet is to always wear a slip.  And if you can’t find a slip short enough for your skirt, chances are your skirt is too short!

“When wearing a skirt or dress, always be conscious of the way you’re sitting.  You may think I don’t need to mention this obvious fact, but you’d be surprised how often girls fail to sit modestly.

“When wearing a skirt, be aware that changing positions will cause your skirt to bunch or pull.  Smooth your skirt down when you sit down or stand up.

 “When choosing a bra, remember that lace and seams will show through many tops.  Choose a seamless or smooth bra whenever possible.  (And remember, it’s almost pointless to wear a bra if the material of your blouse is too thin.  I don’t have to tell you what happens when you get cold.  Protect yourself with a thicker material.)

 “The best advice I could give you is to stand in front of a mirror before you go out.  Bend over, turn side to side, turn around, and check everything.  Be aware of what different kinds of clothing can reveal.